Author: Azure Holland

Finding Balance in the Skies and at Home

Self-Care in Veterinary Medicine: Finding Balance in the Skies and at Home

By: Dr. Azure Holland

At the very top of my self-care list is connection with my two therapy cats, Pecan Pie and Lady Blueberry Biscuit. No matter how busy or emotionally heavy the day has been, they always bring me back to center. Cats are remarkable companions in that way—they absorb our energy, sense our moods, and ground us with their quiet presence. Simply sitting with them reminds me to breathe, reset, and let go.

In veterinary medicine, compassion is our calling—but it can also take a toll. Long days, emotional goodbyes, and the physical demands of the work can leave even the most dedicated professionals drained. That’s why self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity.

And this truth isn’t unique to veterinary medicine. Whether you work in healthcare, education, business, or any other demanding profession, self-care is the foundation that allows us to continue showing up with energy, focus, and compassion.

Why Self-Care Matters

  • Prevents Burnout: Taking intentional breaks allows the mind and body to recover, reducing stress and exhaustion.
  • Improves Presence: When we’re rested and centered, we can show up fully for patients, clients, and loved ones.
  • Sustains Compassion: Protecting our own energy prevents compassion fatigue and keeps empathy alive.
  • Models Healthy Balance: When professionals set boundaries and practice self-care, it empowers teams and colleagues to do the same.

Flying as Active Meditation

Alongside time with my cats, one of my other favorite forms of self-care is flying.

When I’m in the cockpit, there’s no space for worrying about what’s for dinner or running through the to-do list. Flying demands full focus. It’s about survival, discipline, and presence.

Pilots have a saying: “Fly the plane.”

It’s a simple yet profound reminder that no matter what distractions or stressors are pulling at you, your first priority is the task at hand. For me, that singular focus becomes a form of active meditation. The hum of the engine, the stretch of horizon, the rhythm of the sky—it’s where I find my balance.

Bringing Self-Care Into Everyday Life

You don’t have to be a pilot or live with therapy cats to find this kind of grounding presence. Here are some simple ways to bring self-care into your daily routine:

  • Take micro-breaks: Step outside, stretch, or breathe deeply—even a few minutes can reset your perspective.
  • Move your body: A walk, yoga, or light exercise helps release tension.
  • Seek connection: Pets, loved ones, or community can restore your spirit.
  • Hold boundaries: Protect your downtime just as seriously as your work commitments.
  • Practice mindful focus: Try an activity that demands your full attention—gardening, painting, cooking—something that keeps you present.

A Final Thought

In caring professions—and in life—it’s easy to pour endlessly into others until we’re empty. But when we protect our own energy and well-being, we’re able to give more freely, more joyfully, and more sustainably.

For me, that means curling up with Pecan Pie and Lady Blueberry Biscuit, or remembering to “fly the plane.”

For you, it may look different—but whatever restores your center, make space for it. Because taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to care for others.

 

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Supporting the companions who carry on

Thoughts on helping dogs and cats grieve the loss of their beloved companion

By Dr. Holland

Just like people, our pets form deep bonds with one another. When a companion passes, the surviving pets may experience their own version of grief—often expressed through changes in behavior, appetite, or routines. At Azure Holland, we believe in holding space for every member of the family, including the furry ones who are still with us.

Whether they shared a bed, a bowl, or just quiet time in the same room, dogs and cats often notice and mourn the absence of a friend. While some pets may seem unaffected, others may become withdrawn, restless, or clingy. All of these responses are valid.

Ways to Support Grieving Pets:

  • Let them say goodbye. When appropriate, allowing the surviving pet to see or sniff their companion after passing may help them understand that their friend is gone.

  • Keep routines as steady as possible. Mealtimes, walks, and bedtime rituals offer a sense of normalcy and comfort.

  • Offer extra connection. Gentle affection, time together, and low-key play can help your pet feel safe and supported.

  • Encourage healthy social time. For some pets, gentle introductions to new animal friends can help restore confidence and curiosity. This might mean visiting a trusted friend’s pet, a quiet dog park during off-peak hours, or enrolling in a relaxed group class. Go slowly, and follow your pet’s lead.

  • Treat them to something special. A favorite snack, a new toy, or a soft new bed can bring small moments of comfort. Just like us, pets appreciate kindness expressed through their love languages—especially tasty ones.

  • Enrichment matters. For cats and dogs alike, mental stimulation—like puzzle feeders, new toys, window watching, or scent walks—can ease anxiety and bring gentle joy back into their days.

  • Watch for changes. A temporary shift in behavior is natural, but if your pet stops eating, seems depressed, or shows signs of distress, your family veterinarian may be able to help.

  • Use calming aids if needed. Pheromone diffusers, gentle supplements, sprays or calming wraps can offer support through the transition.

  • Be patient. Grief has no timeline. Some pets rebound quickly; others may need time, reassurance, and space.

 

 

You’re not alone in this. If you’re navigating the loss of one pet while caring for another, we’re here to help. Please check out this page on our website if you’d like additional resources.

 

Every life matters. Every bond is sacred.

 

If you need additional support or have questions about your pet’s emotional or physical well-being after the loss of a companion, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We’re here to help.

 


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A blog from Brad at Paws Remembered Pet Aquamation Service in Knightdale

 A Gentle Farewell for Your Beloved Companion

Losing a pet is one of the most heartbreaking experiences for any pet owner. In such moments, finding a way to honor and cherish the memories of your pet becomes essential. Paws Remembered Pet Aquamation Service offers a compassionate and eco-friendly alternative to traditional cremation, helping you say goodbye to your furry friend with dignity.

 

 

What is Aquamation?

Aquamation, also known as water cremation or alkaline hydrolysis, is a gentle and sustainable process that uses water, low heat, and a small amount of alkali to break down organic materials. Unlike traditional cremation, which uses high heat and can release harmful gases, aquamation is a cleaner, more environmentally responsible option.

During the aquamation process, the pet’s body is placed in a chamber where it is exposed to a mixture of warm water and alkali solution. Over several hours, the body is naturally broken down, leaving behind only bone fragments. These bones are then processed into a fine powder, similar to ashes from cremation, and returned to the pet owner in a keepsake urn.

Why Choose Aquamation?

Aquamation is not only an eco-friendly choice, but it also provides a more gentle way to say farewell to a pet. The process is less traumatic compared to high-heat cremation, ensuring that your pet is treated with the utmost respect and care. Plus, it offers a greener solution, as it uses significantly less energy and produces no harmful emissions.

At Paws Remembered Pet Aquamation Service, we understand the deep bond between pets and their owners. Our team is committed to helping families honor their pets’ lives in a meaningful and respectful manner, making the transition a little easier during such an emotional time.

In a world where sustainability matters more than ever, aquamation offers a beautiful way to give your pet a final rest, all while leaving behind a smaller environmental footprint.



Compassionate care is always about meeting them where they are — and sometimes, that’s on wheels!

By: Dr. Leslie Sanders

When cats lose mobility from injury, illness, or age, their quality of life can suffer. In palliative care, keeping cats comfortable, independent, and engaged is a top priority — and sometimes, a wheelchair (also called a cart) can make all the difference.

Feline wheelchairs are lightweight frames that support a cat’s back end while allowing them to move with their front legs. They reduce pain, prevent pressure sores, and help cats stay active, curious, and emotionally healthy.

Cats with spinal injuries, paralysis, severe arthritis, or degenerative diseases may find new freedom in a wheelchair. It’s not about curing disease — it’s about enriching each day with dignity and movement.

Not every cat is a candidate. Strength, comfort, and willingness matter. A custom fit and gentle training are key to success. Some cats may prefer other mobility supports like slings or padded bedding.

Mooshoo (pictured) lost the use of her hind legs due to a suspected degenerative spinal condition.  Thanks to her cart, she can move around better, improving her quality of life while also bringing joy to her family.

In palliative care, small changes create big moments of happiness. Wheelchairs help cats keep exploring, connecting, and living their fullest lives.

If you think your cat might benefit from a mobility aid, talk to your Veterinarian or schedule a palliative care appointment with us to see if your kitty is a candidate.  

Compassionate care is always about meeting them where they are — and sometimes, that’s on wheels.

Should my children be present?

Saying goodbye to a beloved pet is one of the most tender and emotional moments a family can share. When it comes to including children in that experience, there is no one-size-fits-all answer — just the needs of your child, your family, and your pet’s comfort.

At Azure Holland, we believe children can be included in this process in a way that is gentle, age-appropriate, and guided with love. In fact, when thoughtfully supported, many children gain a deeper understanding of the cycle of life, compassion, and what it means to love and let go.

Here are a few things to consider:

Every Child is Different
You know your child best. Some children may want to be fully present, holding their pet’s paw and offering comfort. Others may prefer to say their goodbyes earlier and be in another room. Both choices are okay. Let them know there is no “right” way — only their way.

Honesty Builds Trust
Using gentle, clear language helps children feel safe and included. Saying things like, “We’re helping Bella pass peacefully so she doesn’t hurt anymore,” is often more comforting than vague or confusing phrases like “put to sleep.” Honest words, paired with emotional support, help children feel secure.

Ritual Can Bring Comfort
Some families light a candle, share stories, draw pictures, or place flowers around their pet. These small acts of love can give children a role in the goodbye — a sense of meaning and connection during a difficult time.

The Home Advantage
One of the beautiful aspects of in-home euthanasia is that it happens in a familiar, safe space. Your child can sit in their favorite chair, cuddle with their pet on the couch, or say goodbye surrounded by love — not in a sterile exam room. Home allows room for softness, and space for tears.

You’re Not Alone
If you’re unsure whether to include your child, we’re here to talk it through with you. Azure Holland and her team have helped thousands of families navigate this decision with compassion and care. We can offer guidance on how to prepare, what to expect, and how to support your child before, during, and after.

Gentle Goodbyes Begin With Loving Choices
Whether your child is by your side or nearby, what matters most is that your pet is surrounded by love — and that your family feels supported in each step. We’re here to hold space for all of you..

Dr. Wallace Sife, Ph.D. writes in his book The Loss of a Pet, “Treat the death of a pet with understanding, love, and care allowing the child to benefit from your example and strength.”

WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOUR PET HAS A CHRONIC DISEASE Dr. Janelle’s Guide for Pet Parents

Hearing that your beloved cat or dog has a chronic disease can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s diabetes, kidney disease, arthritis, or a heart condition, the news often comes with a mix of emotions—confusion, fear, guilt, and love. 

The good news? With proper care, many pets live happy, comfortable lives even with chronic conditions. Here’s what to expect and how to prepare. 

ADJUSTING TO LONG-TERM CARE 

Chronic diseases require ongoing management, which may include: 

  • Medication (pills, injections, topicals) 
  • Prescription diets 
  • Frequent vet visits and lab monitoring 
  • At-home care (e.g., glucose checks, mobility support) 

This can feel like a big change, but most pet parents find a routine. With time, it becomes second nature. 

COSTS AND PLANNING 

Chronic care can be a financial commitment. Consider: 

  • Pet insurance or veterinary credit plans 
  • Monthly budgets for meds, food, and checkups 
  • Emergency funds for flare-ups or complications 

Planning ahead helps reduce stress and ensures consistent care. 

UNDERSTANDING QUALITY OF LIFE 

Keep checking in on how your pet is doing. Ask: 

  • Are they eating and drinking? 
  • Are they in pain? 
  • Do they still enjoy walks, toys, or cuddles? 

Your vet can help assess and adjust care to improve comfort and well-being. I find it is helpful to keep a journal.  Do not discount how other pets in the household interact.  Sometimes they can be a signal that things are changing and to consider end of life options.    

PREPARING FOR END-OF-LIFE DECISIONS 

This is the hardest part of the journey

Signs that your pet may be nearing the end include: 

  • Unrelenting pain 
  • Loss of appetite or mobility 
  • Difficulty breathing 
  • Disinterest in life 
  • Decreased appetite or having to encourage them more to eat 

Using a quality-of-life scale can guide your decision. We have one available here https://azureholland.com/pet-quality-of-life-guide/. It is common for your pet to have ups and downs.   Measuring how many more down days than up days can guide you as well.    

Euthanasia, while heartbreaking, is sometimes the kindest option. It’s a final act of love—to give your pet a peaceful goodbye when suffering outweighs joy. Talk to your vet and contact us in advance so you can understand all the details.  You’re not alone. 

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT 

Caring for a chronically ill pet can take an emotional toll. It’s normal to feel sadness, guilt, or fatigue. Lean on support groups (online,local), friends, family, and your veterinary team. Visit our grief resources https://azureholland.com/grief-resources/

Your pet feels your love and care—and that matters more than anything. 

CELEBRATE THE GOOD DAYS 

Even with a chronic condition, pets can have many good days—playing, snuggling, or just relaxing in their favorite spot.  Keep a journal, take pictures, enjoy every moment. Chronic illness is only part of their story—not the whole. 

 IN SUMMARY: 

A chronic diagnosis is not the end. With love, structure, and support, your pet can still live a life full of warmth and joy. And when the time comes to say goodbye, you can do so with peace, knowing you gave them everything they needed—right to the end.   

 

 

 



Improving End-of-Life Care for Pets: A Collaborative Approach with Dr. Azure Holland

This week, I had the privilege of visiting two incredible veterinary hospitals—Animal Hospital of Brier Creek and Paws at Play Veterinary Hospital. During my time there, I had in-depth discussions with their teams about providing better end-of-life care for pets. As someone who is deeply passionate about this aspect of veterinary care, it was both heartwarming and humbling to share insights and offer guidance to help these hospitals navigate the challenging yet essential process of helping families make tough decisions when it’s time to say goodbye to their beloved pets.

At the heart of what my team and I do at Azure Holland is helping families decide when it’s time for their pet to pass on peacefully. It’s an emotional and challenging decision, but with the right support, tools, and language, families can feel confident that they are making the best choice for their pet’s well-being. We explored how veterinary teams can better communicate this decision-making process with pet parents, helping them understand their options and the benefits of making end-of-life care a compassionate experience.

While at these two hospitals, I had the opportunity to coach the staff on enhancing the end-of-life experience within their facilities. From fostering open, empathetic conversations to improving the physical environment, there are many ways we can ensure that the final moments are as peaceful and dignified as possible for both the pet and their family. These small changes in approach can make a big difference in the overall experience, ensuring that families leave feeling supported and at peace with their decision.

One of the key aspects that sets Azure Holland apart is our commitment to providing the highest level of care within the home environment. We believe that pets and their families deserve a comfortable, familiar, and loving space during such an intimate time. Our team works to ensure that the pet’s final moments are peaceful, pain-free, and surrounded by the love of their family. By offering this in-home care, we help families avoid the stress and uncertainty of a hospital setting during this emotionally intense time.

We are always looking for ways to collaborate with veterinary hospitals to ensure that pets and families receive the best possible end-of-life care. If you’re a veterinary professional looking to improve your hospital’s end-of-life approach, we’d love to get to know your team and provide training on the language, tools, and techniques that can help make this difficult time easier for families to navigate. Together, we can offer compassionate care and support to every family that entrusts us with their pets.

End-of-life decisions are never easy, but they are a natural part of every pet’s journey. At Azure Holland, we are committed to walking alongside families through this process with understanding, compassion, and care. If you’re interested in learning more about our services or would like to partner with us to enhance your hospital’s end-of-life care, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Together, we can make these final moments as peaceful and loving as possible.

How Do I Know When It’s Time?

AS PET PARENTS, we don’t want our fur babies to suffer at the end of their lives.  We also don’t want to cut any precious moments short. There is no more agonizing pain than having to put a baby to sleep because often, to end their suffering we must face ours. It’s the choice to ease the suffering of a dear friend, offering them this final act of love. For us, it’s knowing we did everything we could for them until the very end.

So how do I reconcile my head and my heart? Head and heart are often not aligned at the end of a pet’s life.  Emotions can be running very strongly and clouding any real rational thought around the decision. I coach families through end-of-life decisions and try to bring an objective lens to the situation.  Grounding yourself in facts around your pet’s health may support you through the ultimate decision to help them cross the rainbow bridge.

The Quality of Life Guide on the website is the first place I send pet parents. Working through this assessment gives an objective number to the pets QOL. I have found that having each member of the household do their own assessment can lead to constructive conversation around the pet’s health. If you live alone, you may consider anyone that knows your pet and can help with a QOL assessment. The number obtained in the QOL guide is not a hard fast determinant, but a snapshot in time and a way to help assess things moving forward. The QOL assessment includes considering pain, hunger, hydration, hygiene, happiness, mobility, and more good days than bad.

If you or someone you know is having a tough time deciding when it’s time, my team and I are here to help. We provide both general consults virtually, and comprehensive end of life care visits within your home.  Each visit is tailored to be as unique as the bond between you and your pet.

We understand the pain and heartbreak this decision brings.

Thank you for taking time today to begin exploring this emotional topic.

Dr. Azure Holland has been reappointed by NC Governor Roy Cooper

Update: August 2024, Dr. Holland has been elected and reelected President of the board July 2022, 2023, 2024 and reappointed by Gov Cooper July 2023.

 

Raleigh, NC – On July 1, 2018 Dr. Azure Holland, owner of Azure Holland Mobile Veterinary Service was appointed by North Carolina Governor, Roy Cooper to the North Carolina Veterinary Medical Board.

The North Carolina Veterinary Medical Board (NCVMB), a state regulatory and consumer protection agency, was created in 1903 by an act of the State Legislature. Their mission is to safeguard the health, safety and welfare of the people and animals of North Carolina.

The Board is responsible for governing the practice of veterinary medicine. Its primary responsibilities are examination of applicants, issuing and renewing licenses/registrations, formal complaints, practice name approvals, and inspections of all veterinary practices throughout the State.

The Board consists of eight (8) members; these members are appointed by the Governor, the Speaker of the House, President Pro Tempore, and the Commissioner of Agriculture.

“It is such an honor to be appointed and I look forward to serving the people and animals of North Carolina.” Dr. Azure Holland

About Dr. Azure Holland
Dr. Azure Holland is from Bailey – a small town in Eastern North Carolina. She graduated from North Carolina State University with a B.S. in Animal Science and attended the University of Tennessee Veterinary School, graduating in 2007. Dr. Holland has been in private practice in the Triangle area since that time.

About Azure Holland Mobile Veterinary Service
Azure Holland Mobile Veterinary Service focuses only on in home pet euthanasia and veterinary hospice. We believe this is the most compassionate option for pets because it offers the comfort and familiarity of home for dogs or cats as well as privacy for families. Because comfort, familiarity, and family mean everything. Once you have made the difficult decision to let your pet pass on peacefully, our doctors can provide the kindest and most compassionate way to say goodbye.

Are In-Home services more expensive?

 

Regularly I am asked this question so I wanted to address it on my blog knowing that it is a sensitive topic. I have practiced at both an animal hospital and my mobile service that provides home euthanasia for dogs and cats in the Triangle and surrounding areas.  I feel that both of my unique professional experiences gives me good insight on this issue.

My house call visits typically last on average around 2 hours. This can vary depending on how much the pet parents and I talk, and the overall experience that the family is wanting. I am trained in pet loss guidance and I like to spend the first part of the visit just talking and getting to know the pet and the pet parents as well as going over the procedure in detail and answering any questions. My goal is to have the family feel as comfortable as possible. With my mobile veterinary service I never overbook myself. When I show up to help a family I am 100% focused on their needs and the needs of the pet. If the family chooses to, I also take care of all the aftercare arrangements including meeting with the crematorium provider after the in-home appointment.

Hospitals are often loud and busy places.  Typically the clinician is handling multiple fur babies and has much less time to meet with the families and discuss the procedure or offer pet loss guidance. I know from speaking with families who decided to say goodbye to their beloved pet in hospitals that they often felt rushed to say goodbye and wished they had chosen a more intimate setting.  I know from the experience of working in both practices that in-home euthanasia is not for everyone, just as saying goodbye within a hospital setting is not for everyone. Cost does play a role in whether some families decide to say goodbye to their pets at home.  I’m proud to offer a compassionate alternative to pet parents so they have more choices when it  is time to say goodbye.