Category: Should Children Be Present for In-Home Euthanasia?

Should Children Be Present for In-Home Euthanasia?

Saying goodbye to a beloved pet is one of the most tender and emotional moments a family can share. When it comes to including children in that experience, there is no one-size-fits-all answer — just the needs of your child, your family, and your pet’s comfort.

At Azure Holland, we believe children can be included in this process in a way that is gentle, age-appropriate, and guided with love. In fact, when thoughtfully supported, many children gain a deeper understanding of the cycle of life, compassion, and what it means to love and let go.

Here are a few things to consider:

Every Child is Different
You know your child best. Some children may want to be fully present, holding their pet’s paw and offering comfort. Others may prefer to say their goodbyes earlier and be in another room. Both choices are okay. Let them know there is no “right” way — only their way.
Honesty Builds Trust
Using gentle, clear language helps children feel safe and included. Saying things like, “We’re helping Bella pass peacefully so she doesn’t hurt anymore,” is often more comforting than vague or confusing phrases like “put to sleep.” Honest words, paired with emotional support, help children feel secure.
Ritual Can Bring Comfort
Some families light a candle, share stories, draw pictures, or place flowers around their pet. These small acts of love can give children a role in the goodbye — a sense of meaning and connection during a difficult time.
The Home Advantage
One of the beautiful aspects of in-home euthanasia is that it happens in a familiar, safe space. Your child can sit in their favorite chair, cuddle with their pet on the couch, or say goodbye surrounded by love — not in a sterile exam room. Home allows room for softness, and space for tears.
You’re Not Alone
If you’re unsure whether to include your child, we’re here to talk it through with you. Azure Holland and her team have helped thousands of families navigate this decision with compassion and care. We can offer guidance on how to prepare, what to expect, and how to support your child before, during, and after.

Gentle Goodbyes Begin With Loving Choices
Whether your child is by your side or nearby, what matters most is that your pet is surrounded by love — and that your family feels supported in each step. We’re here to hold space for all of you.

WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOUR PET HAS A CHRONIC DISEASE Dr. Janelle’s Guide for Pet Parents

Hearing that your beloved cat or dog has a chronic disease can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s diabetes, kidney disease, arthritis, or a heart condition, the news often comes with a mix of emotions—confusion, fear, guilt, and love.

The good news? With proper care, many pets live happy, comfortable lives even with chronic conditions. Here’s what to expect and how to prepare.

ADJUSTING TO LONG-TERM CARE

Chronic diseases require ongoing management, which may include:

Medication (pills, injections, topicals)
Prescription diets
Frequent vet visits and lab monitoring
At-home care (e.g., glucose checks, mobility support)

This can feel like a big change, but most pet parents find a routine. With time, it becomes second nature.

COSTS AND PLANNING

Chronic care can be a financial commitment. Consider:

Pet insurance or veterinary credit plans
Monthly budgets for meds, food, and checkups
Emergency funds for flare-ups or complications

Planning ahead helps reduce stress and ensures consistent care.

UNDERSTANDING QUALITY OF LIFE

Keep checking in on how your pet is doing. Ask:

Are they eating and drinking?
Are they in pain?
Do they still enjoy walks, toys, or cuddles?

Your vet can help assess and adjust care to improve comfort and well-being. I find it is helpful to keep a journal. Do not discount how other pets in the household interact. Sometimes they can be a signal that things are changing and to consider end of life options.

PREPARING FOR END-OF-LIFE DECISIONS

This is the hardest part of the journey

Signs that your pet may be nearing the end include:

Unrelenting pain
Loss of appetite or mobility
Difficulty breathing
Disinterest in life
Decreased appetite or having to encourage them more to eat

Using a quality-of-life scale can guide your decision. We have one available here https://azureholland.com/pet-quality-of-life-guide/. It is common for your pet to have ups and downs. Measuring how many more down days than up days can guide you as well.

Euthanasia, while heartbreaking, is sometimes the kindest option. It’s a final act of love—to give your pet a peaceful goodbye when suffering outweighs joy. Talk to your vet and contact us in advance so you can understand all the details. You’re not alone.

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT

Caring for a chronically ill pet can take an emotional toll. It’s normal to feel sadness, guilt, or fatigue. Lean on support groups (online,local), friends, family, and your veterinary team. Visit our grief resources https://azureholland.com/grief-resources/

Your pet feels your love and care—and that matters more than anything.

CELEBRATE THE GOOD DAYS

Even with a chronic condition, pets can have many good days—playing, snuggling, or just relaxing in their favorite spot. Keep a journal, take pictures, enjoy every moment. Chronic illness is only part of their story—not the whole.

IN SUMMARY:

A chronic diagnosis is not the end. With love, structure, and support, your pet can still live a life full of warmth and joy. And when the time comes to say goodbye, you can do so with peace, knowing you gave them everything they needed—right to the end.

Improving End-of-Life Care for Pets: A Collaborative Approach with Dr. Azure Holland

This week, I had the privilege of visiting two incredible veterinary hospitals—Animal Hospital of Brier Creek and Paws at Play Veterinary Hospital. During my time there, I had in-depth discussions with their teams about providing better end-of-life care for pets. As someone who is deeply passionate about this aspect of veterinary care, it was both heartwarming and humbling to share insights and offer guidance to help these hospitals navigate the challenging yet essential process of helping families make tough decisions when it’s time to say goodbye to their beloved pets.

At the heart of what my team and I do at Azure Holland is helping families decide when it’s time for their pet to pass on peacefully. It’s an emotional and challenging decision, but with the right support, tools, and language, families can feel confident that they are making the best choice for their pet’s well-being. We explored how veterinary teams can better communicate this decision-making process with pet parents, helping them understand their options and the benefits of making end-of-life care a compassionate experience.

While at these two hospitals, I had the opportunity to coach the staff on enhancing the end-of-life experience within their facilities. From fostering open, empathetic conversations to improving the physical environment, there are many ways we can ensure that the final moments are as peaceful and dignified as possible for both the pet and their family. These small changes in approach can make a big difference in the overall experience, ensuring that families leave feeling supported and at peace with their decision.

One of the key aspects that sets Azure Holland apart is our commitment to providing the highest level of care within the home environment. We believe that pets and their families deserve a comfortable, familiar, and loving space during such an intimate time. Our team works to ensure that the pet’s final moments are peaceful, pain-free, and surrounded by the love of their family. By offering this in-home care, we help families avoid the stress and uncertainty of a hospital setting during this emotionally intense time.

We are always looking for ways to collaborate with veterinary hospitals to ensure that pets and families receive the best possible end-of-life care. If you’re a veterinary professional looking to improve your hospital’s end-of-life approach, we’d love to get to know your team and provide training on the language, tools, and techniques that can help make this difficult time easier for families to navigate. Together, we can offer compassionate care and support to every family that entrusts us with their pets.

End-of-life decisions are never easy, but they are a natural part of every pet’s journey. At Azure Holland, we are committed to walking alongside families through this process with understanding, compassion, and care. If you’re interested in learning more about our services or would like to partner with us to enhance your hospital’s end-of-life care, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Together, we can make these final moments as peaceful and loving as possible.

How Do I Know When It’s Time?

AS PET PARENTS, we don’t want our fur babies to suffer at the end of their lives. We also don’t want to cut any precious moments short. There is no more agonizing pain than having to put a baby to sleep because often, to end their suffering we must face ours. It’s the choice to ease the suffering of a dear friend, offering them this final act of love. For us, it’s knowing we did everything we could for them until the very end.

So how do I reconcile my head and my heart? Head and heart are often not aligned at the end of a pet’s life. Emotions can be running very strongly and clouding any real rational thought around the decision. I coach families through end-of-life decisions and try to bring an objective lens to the situation. Grounding yourself in facts around your pet’s health may support you through the ultimate decision to help them cross the rainbow bridge.

The Quality of Life Guide on the website is the first place I send pet parents. Working through this assessment gives an objective number to the pets QOL. I have found that having each member of the household do their own assessment can lead to constructive conversation around the pet’s health. If you live alone, you may consider anyone that knows your pet and can help with a QOL assessment. The number obtained in the QOL guide is not a hard fast determinant, but a snapshot in time and a way to help assess things moving forward. The QOL assessment includes considering pain, hunger, hydration, hygiene, happiness, mobility, and more good days than bad.

If you or someone you know is having a tough time deciding when it’s time, my team and I are here to help. We provide both general consults virtually, and comprehensive end of life care visits within your home. Each visit is tailored to be as unique as the bond between you and your pet.

We understand the pain and heartbreak this decision brings.

Thank you for taking time today to begin exploring this emotional topic.

Dr. Azure Holland has been reappointed by NC Governor Roy Cooper

Update: August 2024, Dr. Holland has been elected and reelected President of the board July 2022, 2023, 2024 and reappointed by Gov Cooper July 2023.

Raleigh, NC – On July 1, 2018 Dr. Azure Holland, owner of Azure Holland Mobile Veterinary Service was appointed by North Carolina Governor, Roy Cooper to the North Carolina Veterinary Medical Board.

The North Carolina Veterinary Medical Board (NCVMB), a state regulatory and consumer protection agency, was created in 1903 by an act of the State Legislature. Their mission is to safeguard the health, safety and welfare of the people and animals of North Carolina.

The Board is responsible for governing the practice of veterinary medicine. Its primary responsibilities are examination of applicants, issuing and renewing licenses/registrations, formal complaints, practice name approvals, and inspections of all veterinary practices throughout the State.

The Board consists of eight (8) members; these members are appointed by the Governor, the Speaker of the House, President Pro Tempore, and the Commissioner of Agriculture.

“It is such an honor to be appointed and I look forward to serving the people and animals of North Carolina.” Dr. Azure Holland

About Dr. Azure Holland
Dr. Azure Holland is from Bailey – a small town in Eastern North Carolina. She graduated from North Carolina State University with a B.S. in Animal Science and attended the University of Tennessee Veterinary School, graduating in 2007. Dr. Holland has been in private practice in the Triangle area since that time.

About Azure Holland Mobile Veterinary Service
Azure Holland Mobile Veterinary Service focuses only on in home pet euthanasia and veterinary hospice. We believe this is the most compassionate option for pets because it offers the comfort and familiarity of home for dogs or cats as well as privacy for families. Because comfort, familiarity, and family mean everything. Once you have made the difficult decision to let your pet pass on peacefully, our doctors can provide the kindest and most compassionate way to say goodbye.

Loss and Grief with Dr. Holland

The loss of your dog or cat is one of the hardest things that a pet parent has to navigate.

Throughout this journey of the final life stage, there are an array of emotions that can come up. I have had to say goodbye to beloved fur babies and the grief has been intense. Here are some things that have come up in me as I have traveled along the path of grief and loss and to finally finding happiness again.

Is it crazy for this to hurt so much?

No. The grief that I have felt for a beloved pet passing surpasses anything that I have felt for another human in their passing. Pets are often the center of the home and the focus of our love and attention. They comfort us and they know us fully, including our habits and secrets. They are often our “mini-me’s” and it’s only natural that with a relationship that strong and meaningful that we could have a powerful amount of grief.

Here are the 6 stages of grief and how they may show up in the process of losing a pet:

Shock and disbelief- the first responses to the loss of a beloved pet. This can last anywhere from a few hours to several days.
Anger, alienation and distancing- anger can come up in many forms. Often there is anger about the disease that took your baby, or at the Dr. that wasn’t able to save them. Anger when carried to an extreme level can keep you from moving through the healing process and fully experiencing grief.
Denial- having trouble accepting that your fur baby is really gone. Typically this stage is very quick and is rooted in fantasy.
Guilt- the more that you loved your baby, the more likely you are to experience guilt. Experiencing guilt on some level is very natural as we rethink the final life stage of your fur baby and the decisions made for care at the end.
Depression- It is normal to feel depression with intense mourning. With the loss of all my babies and in particular my kitty Mantis, the depression was pretty marked. I would wake up in the morning and ask myself, “Will I ever be happy again?”. I was already in therapy at the time Mantis passed and I used sessions to process this incredible loss. *If the depression becomes too intense or prolonged than one should seek help from a trained professional
Resolution- a time for spiritual healing. In this final stage, we move through the grief and are able to hold onto the memories and the love of our beloved while moving forward with life’s activities.

How can I process my feelings?

The most therapeutic thing we can do is lean into our emotions and pain. In order to get through the other side of grief, we have to feel deeply and sit with the heartbreak and anguish of the loss. Bottling it up and pretending we are ok will only delay the healing process. I have found it especially helpful to speak with my trusted therapist or friends that are pet people. Getting the feelings out is the most important part of the healing process. Crying is one of the most cleansing and cathartic things that we can do for the soul. Other ways to process and move grief through your body: exercise, dance, meditation, journaling, etc. Express yourself and try not to hold it in.

I have been lucky to be surrounded by other pet people during my grieving process. If you don’t have pet people in your inner circle, seek them out. This type of understanding can be so very helpful in your healing journey.

Some practical suggestions:

Find other sympathetic and supportive people to lean on to get your feelings out in a safe environment.

Allow emotions to flow, don’t bottle them up.

It’s never too late to say something to your beloved deceased pet. Write a letter to them sharing how much you love recounting the special memories that you have.

Dedicate or donate something in your pet’s name. Knowing that they are helping other fur babies is a way for them to continue on.

Establish new routines at home. Pets, more than anything in our lives, are rooted in our living patterns. Don’t be scared to shake things up!

Hold some sort of private service or memorial for your pet. This can be as simple or as involved as you wish.

Attend a pet loss or bereavement support group. Allow yourself to share fully and experience the grief in a safe space.

If/When you are ready to bring a new fur baby into your life, tell them stories of your beloved one who passed.

Pecan Pie’s Tips for Surviving the Holidays. Literally.

This time of the year more than most I hear a lot of my friends having to make unnecessary trips to the Vet’s office which is not a fun place most of the time, however, since my Mom works there, I don’t mind visiting.

The tree is a lot of fun and many friends have had trouble with those light cords. I have asked my mom and Dad to unplug the cord just to be safe while they are out.

My Mom tells me that during the holidays she sees more ingested items such as ornaments, parts of presents and other decorations which can lead to expensive surgeries, so get your pet parents to look out for small items like this and put the breakable smaller ornaments up higher on the tree.

I love this time of the year the most for new food items to sample, but I am told they are not good for me and that I need to stick to my cat food. Human food can be high in sugar and carbohydrates that are bad for me and can lead to long term health conditions that are no fun.

So stay safe out there, and resist all efforts to be put in a costume! As you can see I have not been successful.

By Pecan Pie (with assistance from Dr. Holland)